Are you in a relationship? When I started dating my boyfriend M, there were quite a few changes in my life. Now looking back, I’ve come to realize 5 key differences when you find yourself as part of a duo:
You Are Now Part of a Set
Family members and friends will consistently ask you “Where’s [partner name]?” as if you are attached by the hip. It’s cool because in a way, a relationship opens your world up not only to one other person but to another extended circle of family and friends. This is not an exaggeration, especially when you come from a family as big as mine. You find yourself invited to more parties, family gatherings, dinners, etc. This is one of the best parts in my opinion (yay, more food). Also, interacting with so many new people broadens your horizons on different lifestyles and interests. I’ve gotten to know M’s friends and he knows mine. Last week, we played miniature golf with my friend, Ash and her boyfriend. A few weeks before that, we went over to M’s friend’s house to hang out.
You Become Privy to Secrets
By now, you’ve heard the funny and embarrassing stories of his family and friends and he’s heard of yours. There are fewer surprises when a relative randomly bursts out with an old story. This also means you know when there is drama with friends and family, but it is okay because you are each other’s best friends and so telling your best friend a secret doesn’t really count as telling someone else.
You Become Comfortable
This is great and not so great. There’s trust, honesty, and all that good stuff. On the other hand, you become an expert on nearly everything about your significant other. You start realizing your cue to run when they make their “I’m about to fart” face. You recognize when they’re not happy about something but they’re doing it anyway to make you happy. You learn their habits and they learn yours. Sometimes, you even start picking up their habits without realizing it. A funny moment when I realized this was when M and I were laughing at a joke. Out of nowhere he started doing a funny dance. When I’m feeling very at home, I start doing a happy dance. I am not a professional dancer, and these were not cool, hip moves by any sense of the word. The funniest thing is that prior to meeting me, M was more reserved and quieter. Now, he has the habit of doing silly dance moves just like me.
You Plan for Two
You start responding to events by checking “plus one” or “add guest”. If you’re planning for a trip, you factor in his days off and his preferences too. Travel can be more convenient in terms of shared costs and taking turns in driving. It’s great because you always have a partner with you and someone to hang out with!
You Become a Problem Solver
When you’re around someone for a long time, disagreements are inevitable. You become (hopefully) more adept at recognizing each other’s emotions and communicating. You might fight more often than in previous stages of the relationship, but you also have more experience in compromising and resolving issues. With each fight, you learn more about your partner and your relationship strengthens.
I hope you enjoyed this post! I was inspired to write this post after reading Stella Blackmon’s thoughts on A Funny Thing That Happens in Relationships.
If you enjoy reading cute, romantic stories about couples and their relationships, I recommend reading some from Catana. She is an author and illustrator that creates comic strips based on her life with her partner.
These are some things I’ve noticed from being in a relationship. What about you? What are some things you’ve noticed? Have you experienced any of these situations? Let me know by leaving a comment below!